tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9071757402186489670.post3777516569739137361..comments2023-03-25T21:50:50.891+13:00Comments on Bavardess: Silencing and the sexual slurBavardesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10737120234578385755noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9071757402186489670.post-41249119654938511292009-06-07T18:37:50.867+12:002009-06-07T18:37:50.867+12:00Thanks for stopping by Historiann, and for the goo...Thanks for stopping by Historiann, and for the good advice, though I do hope I never get to the point where I feel I need to delete comments. Your classroom analogy is quite apt.Bavardesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10737120234578385755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9071757402186489670.post-79183795142803188102009-06-07T03:40:36.970+12:002009-06-07T03:40:36.970+12:00Your friend "Lambcut" was being a jerk w...Your friend "Lambcut" was being a jerk with that comment and wasn't really reading your post or willing to hear your point of view, in my opinion. This "ZOMG you're censoring free speech!!!" is always one of the first lines of defense, along with "can't you humorless feminists take a joke?"<br /><br />The major mistake I made on my blog last year was in tolerating a-holes much longer than they should have been tolerated. I've found that when I intervene quickly to challenge a creepy commenter, and/or summarily delete the comment and ban the commenter, guess what? People who actually want to participate in the conversation show up in droves, whereas tolerating the a-holes drives away the serious commenters. Every time I smack someone down, I get way more commenters who are heartened by the fact that I won't tolerate bad behavior in my comments.<br /><br />In this sense, hosting a blog conversation is much like teaching a class. If you tolerate bad behavior on the part of a few students, it will bring down the morale of the whole class. Whereas if you deliver the short, sharp shocks from the get-go, students (and commenters) snap to attention and are better behaved.<br /><br />Just my 2 cents, for what they're worth, and thanks for your links to my blog and for your participation in conversations at Historiann.com.Historiannhttp://historiann.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9071757402186489670.post-49814239566245844462009-06-05T18:08:31.024+12:002009-06-05T18:08:31.024+12:00Rootlesscosmo – thanks for the Mackinnon reference...Rootlesscosmo – thanks for the Mackinnon reference. I’ve read a number of her other books, but not that one. From the reviews, it sounds like it would be well worth a look. I remember the debate over pornography being at the forefront of feminist activism in the early 90s (and the differences that it highlighted between ‘radical’ and ‘liberal’ feminism) but it seems to have died down in recent times, or at least become less prominent compared to other issues.<br /><br />Digger – I think the accusation of political correctness is itself a silencing tactic that gets pulled out when someone starts feeling like they’re losing the argument. I was astounded to find how many of the statements on that Derailing for Dummies list I have actually heard used in conversation, but being told I’m being oversensitive has to be pretty close to top of the list of things that make me want to rip someone a new one.Bavardesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10737120234578385755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9071757402186489670.post-18559487207223874852009-06-05T16:00:51.025+12:002009-06-05T16:00:51.025+12:00For a persuasive (I think) feminist examination of...For a persuasive (I think) feminist examination of this:<br /><br />http://www.powells.com/biblio/61-9780674639348-1Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9071757402186489670.post-44862345569595830092009-06-05T15:01:51.235+12:002009-06-05T15:01:51.235+12:00Variations on "You have no sense of humor&quo...Variations on "You have no sense of humor" can be maddening, and effectively puts the onus on the one offended to argue why the comment was Not Funny.<br /><br />My absolute favorite though, is variations of the "You're just being Politically Correct".<br /><br />Have you seen Derailing for Dummies?<br />http://www.derailingfordummies.com/Diggerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14851524413793098615noreply@blogger.com